Fear/Guilt Shame/ Resentment Counselling Cronulla
The human experience is incomplete without going through a range of emotions, both positive and negative. While experiencing a certain amount of negative emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, and resentment is a part of being human, an excess of these feelings can affect our mental health in the long-run.
What Is Fear, Guilt, Shame, and Resentment?
Fear is one of the most basic and primal emotions. Fear is a crucial emotion because it activates our instinctual fight or flight response when we’re confronted with a threat. It is the emotion that gets triggered when we feel threatened, making it indispensable to our survival.
The dictionary defines guilt as a feeling of having committed a wrong or failed in an obligation. Your sense of guilt is generally based on your moral code. Much like fear, guilt in healthy amounts isn’t a bad thing. Feelings of guilt are useful in helping us take accountability for our actions and making changes, apologies, and improvements whenever necessary. Guilt also helps evoke feelings of empathy.
Although guilt and shame often go hand-in-hand, they are distinctly different emotions. Guilt deals more with regret, while shame relates more to embarrassment. Shame is the feeling of deep humiliation.
Resentment is a negative emotional response to any kind of mistreatment. It is the anger we feel when we’re wronged and is commonly accompanied by bitterness and unwillingness to forgive. Feelings of resentment aren’t usually linked to any medical conditions but might be a part of a bigger issue.
How Counselling Can Help Us With Fear, Guilt, Shame, and Resentment Related Issues
As mentioned before, it is impossible and unhealthy to completely avoid feeling any fear, guilt, shame, or resentment. However, it is important to ensure that we feel the right amounts of all of these emotions and that they are responses to the appropriate stimuli. Feeling overwhelmed by any of these emotions is a good enough reason to seek professional treatment.
Professional counselling can be immensely useful in learning to cope with being overwhelmed by fear, shame and guilt. Counselling can guide you through coping techniques to help you overcome issues related to fear, guilt, shame, and resentment. They can support you in examining why you feel a particular emotion so intensely, where these feelings originate from, and how to go about managing them.
How Counselling Can Help You Overcome Fear
Debilitating fear can impair our functioning both mentally and physically. When fear takes over our lives and begins to affect our work, our interactions, our motivation, and our general well-being, it’s time to seek the help of a counsellor.
Together we can work collaboratively to help you in recognising the underlying cause of overwhelming fear. This can help put the fear in perspective, which makes it easier to handle. Working together, we can also support you in setting realistic expectations to manage the anxiety that is usually a part of excessive fear. Overcoming fear and anxiety can be carried out by a number of therapeutic approaches.
How Counselling Can Help You Overcome Guilt
Chronic guilt might make us feel like we’re stuck. We might feel deep sorrow, frustration, and sadness, and these emotions might feel impossible to overcome. That is where counselling can be extremely useful.
A counsellor can’t help you “fix” your mistake, but they can help you in dealing with guilt and shame, through normalising guilt and assisting you with the management of negative emotions and feelings. Everyone makes mistakes and experiences some form of guilt at any given time. We can’t change the past. However, we can change how we look at things past in the present.
Guilt counselling generally has a strong focus on acceptance and forgiveness. A therapist will support you in figuring out the underlying cause of your guilt, whether it is from your childhood, abuse, a traumatic event, or anxiety. They will help you accept and forgive yourself using tools of self-compassion.
How Counselling Can Help You Overcome Shame
Toxic shame can cause powerfully negative emotions to seize our minds. When we go through toxic shame, we might feel unworthy of love or feel afraid of being uncovered as a fraud. They might even engage in self-harmful behaviours.
Counselling can work wonders when it comes to healing shame. Much like with guilt, counsellors will help you examine the root cause of your shame and use therapeutic techniques to help you overcome it.
How Counselling Can Help You Overcome Resentment
While resentment is not inherently harmful, its festering over long durations definitely is. If you deal with similar feelings or feel unable to forgive even the slightest mistakes, a counsellor might be required.
Trained counsellors can help you revisit the incident that is causing you resentment and can help you process it more healthily using methods like personal actualisation. This can help relieve the intensity of the resentment you are feeling.
Inner Voice Counselling Cronulla is located in Sydney’s Sutherland Shire, New South Wales. Consultations are available in person, via Zoom, or by telephone. Contact us here.