Most families feel uncomfortable or apprehensive about coming to counselling. Others may be scared and not know what to expect. This is normal reaction is completely understandable.
The reason for seeking counselling may be that your family has experienced difficulties adjusting to changing circumstances. You are not alone. There are many reasons why families can be impacted and challenged, effecting every member of the family whether good or bad.
Just imagine how some events can change the family system. A new baby, financial difficulties, trouble with the law or a medical diagnosis can shift the family dynamics and have everyone compensating to accommodate the changes. Change often creates an imbalance. The way in which each member responds to change determines the general health and happiness of each family member. The aim of family counselling is to restore some equilibrium among the family.
Family counselling is a safe way to explore issues that may cause a sense of uneasiness, conflict, unrest or worry. In the family counselling process, there is no blame, favour or discrimination as each family member is given a chance to talk and be heard respectfully in a safe space. Family counselling explores and uncovers possibilities and helpful resources to readjust and restore equilibrium among the family members.
Family counselling is better with all members of the family present although it is not always possible. In session, the counsellor observes the family interactions and unhelpful ways of relating to each other. This counsellor’s observation encourages the family to become aware of their reactions and negative communication patterns of relating to each other through reflection. The counsellor aims to gently guide the family to replace old ways that are not helpful and clearly not working with new positive ways of communicating with each other.
Poor communication in the family may also be affecting the behaviour of your children and making them unhappy. For this reason, many children do not feel comfortable or safe to speak about what is happening for them at home. Counselling offers your child a safe, non-judgemental place to be able to voice how they truly feel and the effects of the family on their sense of self and wellbeing. You may unknowingly be repeating intergenerational patterns that have not been helpful.
Susie is currently a family counsellor in training. She is enrolled in the Graduate Diploma of Multi-generational Family Therapy Program with the Accademia di Psicoterapia della Famiglia International Training School, with world-wide acclaimed Professor Maurizio Andolfi, Master Therapist. Susie works as a trainee with her mentor Mr David Hong, Family Therapist and University Lecturer at the Delta Clinic in Baulkham Hills. David has over 30 year’s experience specialising in ADHD, ODD and school refusal. Susie is available as a family counsellor at a competitive rate under as she is under the supervision of Mr David Hong.